Ditch the Anxiety-Find Bad-Ass Balance
When you embrace your values, you can find more balance.
When we think of balance, sometimes we think of things that stay the same. But, balance is something that moves and changes throughout our life. It would be nice if everything could fit into a nice tiny box, open and close it when we please. Ah, life would be straightforward if it worked that way. However, it doesn’t. And that sucks. Many famous cultural beliefs and Memes say that you can achieve balance by doing this. However, balance requires us to get clear on our values and our priorities.
WORK-LIFE Balance
We can find ourselves tiredly running and and up the seesaw of work/life balance. Let’s jump off and walk align with your values!
When we align our energy and focus with our values, our priorities and natural sense of balance emerge. Because we’re running while trying to meet all these external deadlines, we are running like a chicken with its head cut off. When we look at life from that mindset, yes, balance seems impossible. You feel stuck, aggravated, I feel like no one’s picking up the slack, and no one can do it as well as you.
Well, there is only one you, and you’re pretty damn awesome, but other people can do the things that are not on your priority list. For example, if you are stuck getting groceries or meal prepping. Some members of your family can take over that role and help balance out a life for you.
To live in a state of balance, we need to get clear about our values and priorities. I invite you to think about what are your three main preferences? This seems complicated because you’re a badass and you do so many things, and there are probably 10 priorities that you have to face in a day. However, if you could distill your priorities down to four what the main ones that keep resurfacing in your life are? When you were a child, what fired you up and got you super passionate? What do you value and what speaks to your heart and makes it light up?
Once you get clear on your priorities and values, it is next to get into Einstein time. This term was coined by Gay Hendricks, the author of the Giant Leap. Einstein time is a term he created to help explain the shift in our relationship with time. In our Newtonian way of understanding the world, time is outside of us. Meaning it controls us, and we’re a slave to time. However, Hendrix suggests that time is inside of us. Yes, that seems a little cryptic. But, what he is saying is that if we shift our relationship at a time as this outside force and bring it on the inside meaning, we are the creators of time we are the ones creating the time for the things that matter to us, time becomes a non-negotiable and a non-issue. When we can pay attention automatically, thoughts, we can watch a relationship with time and call them ourselves down before getting old bent out of shape.
Once we have a clear idea of our values and priorities, annexes to come setting boundaries. Boundaries can be challenging for a lot of women. We are taught as women to be subservient, quiet, not speak on mine. Yes, it’s an essential skill to have as you negotiate your inner values and highest ideals. Please see my previous blog on boundaries.
Finding balance to get where you are going!
After setting boundaries in place with people, you can start living an Einstein time, you align your energy and time with your values and priorities, and sometimes Life might look the same. Still, there’s a huge difference; you can go through your day with ease and with more energy. By aligning with your true values and priorities, energy gets freed up in our body and our mind, and we’re able to do still what we do and sometimes June because we are aligned and passionate with our life. So many disorders and diseases are because we step out of the natural flow of life.
Taking each step with confidence and balance!
Sincerely,
