Worthy High-Achieving Women. (3 Techniques to Help Increase your Self- Worth)
Your motivation and drive are incredible. You know what it takes to get things done and strive for success.
You got this. You’ve been rocking your success ever since you can imagine. There’s an inner drive to go and do well. Your drive and passion has given you many abilities and creative opportunities to express yourself. You have a very strong ‘I can do’ this mentality. Sometimes when you’re needing a break or focus your energy inward stepping away from that new task or project can be hard. Despite being hard-working, driven, and enjoying doing projects, you tend to struggle to find a balance between doing your passion or achieving for accolades. You may be thinking, “ I keep accomplishing and doing these cool things, but I still feel shitty about myself sometimes, or I want to feel good enough no matter what I do.”
Listen to Hari Prasada, Michael, Rasanath, and Vipin talk about the detangling Self-Worth from Achievement below.
This blog is about learning about your self-worth and how the achieving cycle can leave you feeling crappy and unfulfilled. Even though you can see your success, sometimes the doubting part comes out and keeps you from living the full life you want. Many of my clients are highly successful women and creative entrepreneurs and struggle with not feeling worthy of connection and healthy relationships. Sometimes the drive for success becomes linked with getting a dopamine hit with a specific accomplishment. There’s nothing wrong with being driven and enjoying accomplishing things. But when the achievement and the need for success and getting things done replaces your self-worth, you struggle to feel any sort of fulfillment. You may find yourself on a hamster wheel, going and going without any satisfaction or sense of contentment. But because of your driven nature, you might keep going, but not feel like you’re enough.
You know how to get stuff done!
Is what you’re doing to increase your self-worth or because you love it?
You might want more time for creative endeavors, time to slow down, and enjoy the life you created, but every time you try to think about it, that nagging voice comes and stops you write in your tracks. You might even think, how can I make this work if I’m constantly needing to do X to get the validation or the excitement of bringing a copy of a project on versus slowing down and doing something just for fun. You sometimes can’t even fathom what that would look like. I am not alone. I’ve been on this cycle for a while where I would ultimately push myself and understand something and exceed one part of my life with another part because I could fall apart. I had to step off that hamster wheel and take a good hard look at where my self-worth was coming from and why I willingly stepped onto this cycle to start with.
What keeps you going in the hamster wheel?
Once I stepped off of the spinning wheel, I was able to get clear on my values, realign my energy, have more ease and flow in my life!
The achieving cycle happens to a lot of driven women. The cycle is where you naturally love to achieve, accomplish, and change your negative mindset, and she is the impossible. And sometimes, you get stuck in getting the accolades from the achievement. Let’s get real; it feels great to be rewarded for a well-done job. We all enjoy that, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Any accomplishment should be celebrated. But what happens is our self-worth and self-esteem get tied up to The amounts of achievement and success we have. Having her self-worth wrapped up in an accomplishment can be a tricky situation. Many of my clients find themselves doing fantastic work but cannot see their achievements or take the time and acknowledge what they’ve accomplished. But not being able to slow down and acknowledge what you’ve accomplished, these women keep struggling with feeling frustrated, angry, resentful, and feel like they can’t connect to people they want to because they feel like they’re not as worthy as they are.
“I want to relax and paint and yet I need to get all this shit done.”
Taking time for yourself to connect with what you feel helps you find balance and do more things that matter to you!
It’s a beautiful thing about high-achieving women that you have the drive and the passion. I hope women take the drive, love, and creative energy they hold and help move their energy towards increasing their self-esteem and self-worth. By increasing their self-worth and self-esteem, these women can do amazing things. They’re able to cultivate and create a life that works for them while being amazingly successful and doing what they love is achieving and helping others achieve.
Here are 3 techniques to help increase self-worth:
Make a list of the things you are good at outside of work, whether with friends, hobbies, or anything that feels right and aligns with what matters to you.
Focus on what your close friends admire about you.
Focus on doing something absolutely for fun. What would you like to do that lets you lose track of time and have fun? Do more of that!
Your drive and motivation is a wonderful aspect of who you are. Having passion, motivation, and drive to focus on your goals is what makes you awesome and it’s important that you celebrate that. It’s also important to make room to look at where your self-worth and self-esteem are coming from. If your self-worth is coming from the outside through accomplishments, you can get yourself stuck in the cycle where you keep having to accomplish in order to feel a sense of self-worth and importance. Sometimes you just want to slow down and rest and calm down but it’s hard. Many women feel stuck in the same cycle of wanting to achieve but still feel a lack of worthiness or they keep having to do more and more and get exhausted. But life doesn’t have to be so hard and it doesn’t have to be that way. You’re able to take that awesome motivated driven energy and be able to create more balance for yourself where you feel more connected, you’re able to say no to things that don’t really fit for you at this point in time and be able to see feel good and worry about yourself and your accomplishments as they are.
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